President’s Message

Over the past several years that I have been involved with the Board, there have been several debates over requiring a minimum standard of preparation for Bar and Bat Mitzvah. The discussions have always been thought provoking and interesting, but never seriously moved towards a motion or the setting of policy due to the lack of consensus. The focal point of the discussion each time has been educational standards. For example, should students demonstrate some level of Hebrew fluency, some knowledge of the holidays, or some basic grasp of our customs and traditions surrounding Shabbat? Should they be required to attend services a certain number of times in their Bar/Bat Mitzvah year?

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Dear Fellow Members of Temple Beth Sholom,

Every year on Yom Kippur, the President stands before the congregation and asks for contributions.  It’s the one time during the year when we have everyone’s attention, and tradition says we cannot pass over the opportunity.  This year, you all responded with characteristic zeal and we were able to meet our budget for the High Holiday appeal.  Thank you for supporting this effort. (more…)

The Jewish Federation of Greater New Haven recently completed a demographic study and analysis of the Jewish population in its service area.  The entire results of the survey can be found at www.jewishdatabank.org under the link for New Haven, and I encourage you all to review the findings for yourselves.  Essentially, the study found what we already suspected:  the New Haven Jewish community is slowly declining, the majority of the population is in the 50 and over age range, and young people are not moving into or staying in Connecticut.  Not a shock to anyone.  We also learned that there are 1630 Jewish households (defined as one or more Jewish adults) and 3200 Jewish people in Hamden.

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At a recent Shabbat service, we had a couple visiting town stop in to visit us. They knew someone who was a member, but had no other affiliation or information about the Temple. And, although some spiritual reason brought them to Shabbat services, they did not appear to be particularly “religious.” After services were over, I invited them to join us for Kiddush and they grabbed some stuffed shells (they were excellent!) and sat down and mingled with the crowd.

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A few weeks back, a classmate of my fourth grade son lost his mother after a 6-year battle with breast cancer.  Ever since they met and became friends in first grade, he knew that his friend’s mother was dying, but after 4 years of watching her lead an apparently normal life as an apparently regular mom, there was no reality to the concept of her dying.  Then one day he received a phone call from his classmate saying that his mother died.

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On a recent Shabbat morning we completed the reading of Genesis.  In accordance with tradition, after the last word, the Torah was lifted by the reader and everyone said Hazak, Hazak, Venit Hazek, “Be Strong! Be Strong!  And may we all be strengthened!”  Although the origins of this tradition apparently refer to the actual physical strength required to lift the Torah, the phrase has significance today. (more…)

Many of you know that I feel passionately and strongly about Shabbat observance.  I am not one to judge others on what level of observance they maintain and by no means consider my personal level of observance as a gold standard.  Instead, I feel that the inner peace and relaxation that accompany Shabbat and prayer are worthy of sharing and encourage people to participate at whatever level they are comfortable.  For me, my favorite place to observe Shabbat is at Temple Beth Sholom.  If for some reason I am not there, you will likely find me in my second favorite place – the woods.

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At a recent board meeting the Ritual Committee was challenged with the following question:  Why do so many people leave after the Rabbi’s sermon during the High Holidays.  We all know, of course, that there is no one answer.  People leave for all sorts of reasons, including some who simply get some fresh air and return.  The question was obviously rhetorical, the questioner an intelligent person capable of forming the obvious answers.  None the less, it is an important question. (more…)

When Joan Levine asked me take on the Presidency, she executed the approach masterfully. It was a lesson in the art of negotiation. It was a Shabbat morning, services had been peaceful and relaxing, my stomach was full from the Kiddush food, and warm from the Kiddush schnaps. My children were playing with all the other children, and I was enjoying some good conversation with some close friends. Then she struck. Like a shark circling a seal off the coast of Cape Cod, she cornered me, took an introductory bite to test the sweetness, and then went in for the kill. And I have to say, I was flattered to be asked. I consider it a great honor to be here before you.

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When did a “Minute” of Silence to commemorate the dead become a “Moment” of Silence? When Governor Rell declared a “Moment of Silence” to commemorate the victims of the Manchester shooting at Hartford Distributors, I was expecting a true minute. Even when the radio announcer stated at 9:15 AM on August 9 that they were about to begin their “Moment of Silence”, I thought he misspoke. He must have meant a minute and confused it with a moment. Unfortunately, I was mistaken and he was correct. It was a moment. About 10 seconds. That’s about 1.1 seconds per person.

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